Purposefully Parenting with Patience
Parents intrinsically know we are responsible for the welfare of our children. Things like providing the necessities of life…food, clothing and shelter for our children come naturally. As parents, we also, fundamentally know we are accountable for raising our children to be responsible, productive citizens; this takes a concerted effort. As Christians, we have been commanded to train up our children in the way they should go (Pro 22:6), this takes grace.
I personally believe, as parents, it is our greatest desire to accomplish all of these things in the brief time we are our children’s primary influencers. The question becomes…how? Ask a professional athlete the question, “What is the difference between an average athlete and an exceptional one?” The answer inevitably will be two fold...a good coach and hours of repetitive training.
Webster defines “training” as an action word, that means to direct the growth of…usually by bending, pruning, and tying, to form by instruction, discipline, or drill, to teach so as to make fit, qualified, or proficient, to make prepared (as by exercise) for a test of skill, to aim at an object or objective.
How do we achieve this with our children? By "purposefully parenting with patience.” Purposefully parenting with patience is to set aside your emotions, disregard your timeframes and objectives and quite often personal appearances in order to train your child at the teachable moment (when the event is occurring) calmly and without complaining. It may seem obvious to an outsider, however, to purposefully parent with patience is one of the most difficult things a parent can do at ground 0, ground 18 months and especially at ground 24 months. But, it is what we must do if we desire to see that particular behavior pattern stopped or established in our children’s life.
I read once that “patience” is the power twin of faith and with out patience we will never see manifestation of the promises(Heb 10:36) that God has given us in His Word. Promises like:
Pro 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Isa 54:13 And all thy children [shall be] taught of the LORD; and great [shall be] the peace of thy children.